As you continue to pursue wholehearted living, here are 10 truths I hope you hold onto…
#10 “Everything will be okay. You are far too young not to believe it will be okay.” –Craig Andersen
You can bounce back from this. You are young and fearless. Embrace resilience. Embrace change. Push into failure. I know the choices you make seem crucial right now, but please give yourself permission to experience life along the way. I promise the choices you make today aren’t as important as they might feel right now. And your past does not define you. Take risks, fall down, get back up and try again. Failure and disappointments are not your enemy. Mistakes, failures, and heartbreak are all proof that you are trying. And you will experience A LOT of pain and failure. Get used to it and accept it because such is life. And as you give yourself permission to make mistakes, embrace the pain and live through it, please be willing to admit when you are wrong along the way. Don’t blame others for your mistakes. Own them and then move on. You have places to go.
#9 You are imperfect and that’s ok.
“And now that you don’t have to be perfect you can be good.” –John Steinbeck
There is so much pressure to be perfect. You are good and that is enough. You don’t need to be perfect. You are exactly where you need to be for this moment. And in 7 years you will be exactly where you need to be, too. Please stop looking around and comparing yourself to others and where they are. Be kind to yourself. Comparison will kill your joy.
“Good for her! Not for me, that is the motto women should be constantly repeating over and over again -Amy Poehler
#8 It’s not forever.
Shit happens. Life will surprise you. Sometimes in the midst of everything going on in our lives it can feel like nothing will ever change. Then one day everything is different. You look back and wonder how you got here. Sometimes it’s a good change, you want to hold onto forever, other times change is the worst, and you can’t wait for the circumstances to shift again. No matter which situation you find yourself in today, know it won’t be forever. “This too shall pass.” Remember this in both the good and bad times. Please do me a favor, try to stop more and take the time to enjoy it. Breathe it in. Live in the moment and find the good in it all.
“Shift happens.” -Robin Bell
#6 Enjoy the moment
“A purpose of life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.” –Kurt Vonnegut
Love where you are right now. That’s all you have. Just let life happen sometimes and enjoy what’s in front of you. Maybe you wish you were in a different place or with different people? Choose to be around people that make you feel valued. Go to places that inspire you. Don’t be resentful. Just be present wherever life leads you and make the best of whatever situation you are in. Life is too damn short.
#5 Treat all people with respect
There is so much to learn from the world and the experiences around us. Don’t forget to live and see the world. Let others teach you along the way. Always be willing to learn from everyone you meet. Treat others with respect and as if they are the experts of their own lives and experiences.
Don’t shut people and ideas out. Listen to those that disagree with you. There is wisdom in hearing the vantage point of others. And you might discover you don’t disagree with them as much as you thought. Seek to understand others first and stop talking so much! Let your curiosity and excitement for new ideas open you up to the world around you.
#4 You have to Advocate for Yourself and Find You Own Voice
It is going to be difficult for you but learn to ask for what you need. Advocate for yourself in life. “You teach others how they can treat you, by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce. In your desire to meet the needs of others, you tend to neglect your own heart. Treat Yo Self! Don’t be afraid to love yourself and standup for yourself when you need to. You are worth it. When you were younger you might have felt like you didn’t have a voice. But you do have a voice, so find it, accept it and use it!
#3 You are a survivor
“You’ll never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice…” –Bob Marley
Sometimes life beats you up. You might feel broken at times. And I can’t promise that the pain ever really goes away but we do learn to live with it. We live with our brokenness. And we survive. We make it through the pain. We overcome it. You aren’t alone. Find community and people that will let you be you. Don’t let the pain of the world keep you from living. Hold on, Hope is coming.
#2 Don’t Ever Stop Seeing the Light in People
“Let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” –Matthew 5:16
God is inside each of us. Please don’t give up on people. See the world for all it is, beautifully flawed. Hold onto beauty, search for it, and add to it. Don’t close people out. You were meant to connect. Open yourself up to the world despite the darkness. May your eyes never grow dim to the beauty of this world.
#1 Always Put Love on Top
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” -1 Peter 4:8
May your love always be bigger than your fears and brokenness. Find Love and let it change you and transform you. Let Love enter in. You are loved so love others. Be willing to take risks. Be vulnerable. Be Brave. Dare Greatly. Love extravagantly. Give it all you’ve got!